It’s a tough topic to discuss for many reasons. One of them would be the difference in experience between the participants.
Some of us have never played a VN that included “meaningful” H-scenes. I myself have only twice seen examples of such scenes that to my mind have gone beyond mere fanservice/sells boost/jerk-off material and have actually contributed positively to story and character development in a convincing fashion. Which means that almost all H-scenes I have seen or skipped so far have impacted my reading experience of their respective VNs in a negative way.
But some users who took part in this discussion have had a very different experience with H-scenes in VNs. They claim that somewhere out there, there are VNs where H-scenes are actually well-done and have a proper, meaningful function. And if it wasn’t for those 2 exceptions I have experienced, I would find it very hard to believe that “good” H-scenes actually exist, which in turn would make it harder for me to view even the very concept of H-scenes in a positive way.